Beauty in the Ordinary

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"And above all, watch with glittering eyes the whole world around you because the greatest secrets are always hidden in the most unlikely places. Those who don't believe in magic will never find it." Raold Dahl

Wednesday, February 6, 2013

Insecurity


"have you ever had to contend with the feelings that arise when you just know someone doesn't like you.  It's unreasonable to think that one will go through life and have everyone see only the good in you; yet when I look in this person's face I can't help but wonder 'why?  what's not to like here?'  If I start to analyze my feelings about her reaction to me, I can truthfully say I really don't care, and yet our dealings with each other are still brushed with a frisson of tension.  So what is this really all about?  
Perhaps what I feel is the discomfort of the reality of looking in that emotional mirror.  Perhaps I'm really uncomfortable with the guilty feelings of, for no apparent reason, not liking her.  We do see ourselves so much in others.  My father once opined that life was all really just in our own heads; that we created our world from our own imagination.  Living with that idea bouncing around in my mind all my life, I'm curious  about how much sense it makes to me now." JP

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14 comments:

  1. It's. hard and we all find it a difficult one to do... But mutter to yourself
    " their loss"
    Xx

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    1. Kind of has a way of sticking in one's craw. But I do try and learn something out of these kind of situations. There's always a lesson somewhere.

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  2. Right along with John, when people behave badly it is about their own pain/anger and has nothing to do with the person in front of them at the time. Relax. Bless this person and her pain. Surround her with healing light. You both will feel better. We are not required to like everyone or to prefer the company of everyone. Bless and release. Let her go.

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    1. A wee bit trickier than that HA. I work with her on a fairly regular basis, and so I have to find a way to make things hum along. It's all good really, I do have a very thick skin---I just find the notion of it all intriguing.

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  3. J, I can't imagine anyone not liking you. And I go along with John's comment x

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    1. You are very sweet Molly, but being a Leo on the regular calendar and a Water Snake on the Chinese one, I have been know to roar, hiss and spit...in that order!

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  4. I'm with Molly, but why don't you just ask her what's going on?

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    1. But you love me Sis! If I said anything to her, she would be utterly dumbfounded.

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  5. It ia hard. We want to like everybody. But then our gut tells us, no, this will not work out. It could be as simple as a word or a phrase, it could be a reaction, it could be the mood we are in that night, it could be anything we are looking for because, as I said, our gut tells us, it is not a good match. So, let it be. There is really nothing wrong with either of you, it is just life.

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    1. Sock'em...you've hit the nail on the head. It's everything and nothing. We just approach life from different angles. So be it!

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  6. Thankfully many years ago I developed the opinion that 'not everyone is part of my fan club and that's ok'. I work at staying out of their way - makes it more comfortable all around. There are people who I prefer to not be around and I try to stay aside ........ even if I don't know what it is they find offensive.

    Direct your positive energy to those who have captured your heart. Don't you just love the feeling of recalling the first time you met a dear friend and you struck it off right away?

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    1. I like the way you phrase it Katherine "not everyone is part of my fan club"...pretty funny - and yes, avoidance is the most tactful tactic.

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  7. There are many people with whom I care not to socialise, but I would never let it be known to them. I just make polite conversation, and move on. If someone makes their antagonism plainly obvious, it says much more about them, than it does about you. I would guess that it must be based on jealousy, so maybe you should be flattered!

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    1. Yikes Cro! Jealousy - I sincerely hope not. That green-eyed monster must be the most painful of all the seven deadlies. I wouldn't wish that on anyone!

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